"My life has no purpose, no direction,
no aim, no meaning, and yet I'm happy. 
I can't figure it out.  What am I doing right?
  - Charles Schulz"

Imagine the kind of happiness Charles Shulz had. What does it take for us to take charge of our lives and create that kind of happiness?  It takes replacing old ways of being (thinking, behaving and environment) with new ones.  It's not just the internal, neither is it just the external.

Most of us have tried to make changes in our lives and have struggled to sustain them.  In my case, I'd been through therapy, 12-steps (Co-Dependence Anonymous), visited different religious groups, had coaches, learned powerful communcation and mental techniques; all to help me get back on track. 

And the bottom line became implementing what I know.

An example of what I've found can be related to weight loss.  People try to lose weight and many of them succeed (for short periods of time) then they gain the weight back, and some even gain extra weight.  So they are not where they were; they weigh even more and feel worse about themselves.

Many of the ways of trying to lose weight center on behavior: changing diet and/or exercise.  Others try environmental change; say, getting a job on the 5th floor of a building so we have to walk up and down stairs.

Yet, when those are taken away, we return to our old behaviors.  

This is because we've left out the critical third part.   Our thinking.  We've learned thinking about food, exercise, the world and ourselves that creates behaviors that make us gain weight.

Exercise is too hard. 
I've gained so much, it'll be that much harder to lose the weight. 
It'll take 6 months to lose. 
What's the use? I'll just gain it back. 
One more bite won't hurt.  I've been good all week. 
Life is too difficult, I deserve to indulge.

All these thoughts serve to keep us in a place we don't want to be, and until we restore ourselves to healthy thinking, we will continue to behave in unhealthy ways.

So, I work with people using these tools Ive learned, to help them live more fulfilling lives by getting clarity on what they want and changing their thinking to achieve it. 

I use Nonviolent Communication, The Work of Byron Katie, and Thought Process Management of Human Excellence as my primary tools in my toolbox.

For more information or to schedule a session to determine if working with me works for you, click here.  I will respond as soon as I can.

Be Well and at Peace,

Steve